Radical Vulnerability

Uncertainty, Risk, and Emotional Exposure

Do you wonder why you’re not forming deep, meaningful connections with people? Do you think of vulnerable as weak? Do you struggle with vulnerability?

@brenebrown is the shame and vulnerability researcher and she has something to say on the topic…

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Am I willing to show up and be seen when I can’t control the outcome?
  • Am I willing to create courageous spaces so I can be fully seen?
  • But also: Do I have clear boundaries in place in which to share my vulnerability?

Contact me for more journal prompts on this topic! Or share something small and vulnerable about yourself in the comments below. I am here to hold space. I’ll go first:

I have always had a hard time in bigger groups of people because I was so insecure. I started observing people rather than engaging with them directly… I think that made the other kids think of me as a bit of weirdo.

What’s Radical About That?

If you’re not willing to be fully seen, you cannot form deep connection to another person. By going first. By showing yourself fully,
Yes, you’re risking getting hurt… But you’re also giving the other person a chance to hold you, to see you, to hear you, and, you’re giving them the blueprint to do it, too.

Be courageous – be vulnerable!

Be Discerning

Do you have people you could call at 3am with a life crisis? Sharing your vulnerability with trustworthy people is the key here. Make sure there’s some level of trust already, before you run the risk of over-sharing yourself. But also, not everyone is deserving of your full truth – and that’s okay too. Keep in mind, that while everyone has their packages to carry, not everyone has to share them all the time and with everybody.

For example, you can be compassionate with the man at the grocery store who seems to be having a bad day because he looks a little dishevelled and sad. You could smile at him. You don’t have to go up to him and share your own life’s deep moments and how you got out of them, expecting him to immediately share his story and feel better in the process… A smile usually goes a long way.

Take care. Value your pack. Honor your vulnerability. Respect your boundaries. Respect their boundaries. And most of all, be kind.



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